The holidays are here and if you’re single, you may be inwardly worrying as the holidays tend to amplify the absence of a significant other in your life, especially at those family gatherings where Aunty Ronke and Uncle Fash won’t let you drink water and keep the glass down. Aunty Ronke will be asking you, ‘you’re not getting any younger you know, so when are we coming to eat your own rice?’ Uncle Fash will take you aside to a corner and ask, ‘Is it that you don’t know how to talk to women? I will introduce you to my friend’s daughter’.
Don’t stress it. Just let it roll off your back like water on the back a duck. Yes, if it’s something you want (because not every single person wants to be coupled and that should be honoured!), it would have been it’s awesome to have bae by your side but they’re not there yet so just rock your singledom like the queen or king that you are, take no prisoners!
Here are 5 ways you can rock your singledom this holiday.
1. Stand up for yourself
As the holiday festivities power on, someone may decide to wear their cluelessness like a badge and go on to ask, why are you still single? A popular variation to this question is, when are we coming to eat your rice? Don’t panic, just breathe. You certainly owe them no response and if you’re feeling cheeky you can tell them now that you bring it up, I would like to know, ‘Why are you still married?’ just as no one ever really asks married people that question, singletons do not have to justify their status.
2. Practice self-care
Prioritize yourself. Check in what yourself. Ask yourself, how can I show up for me today? The answer could be anything, listen to yourself, listen to your body, your body always knows, if you can’t ‘hear’ anything, it’s probably cos you’ve ignored it for so long that it’s stopped ‘talking’ to you. This is a good time to slow down and reconnect with yourself. The holidays can be a stressful and busy period, what with the winds of Detty December blowing and fanning the flames of your FOMO but hey, you can decide to make yourself your number one priority.
3. Go mingle
It’s an open secret that lots of single people will be out there, ready to mingle. Resist the temptation to stay home and hibernate, don’t hesitate to put yourself out there. The hidden secret to putting oneself out there is to focus on having lots of fun and a great time. Focusing on snagging a catch gives off desperado vibes and significantly reduces your chances of snagging a catch, a real catch.
4. Try something new
Give yourself permission to try something new, something you normally wouldn’t do, let yourself out of the box. Your inner critic will most likely come up with ninety-nine reasons why you shouldn’t do this but just go ahead and ask it to take a hike. You could try kayaking, or go salsa dancing, or take an archery class or read your first book that’s over one hundred pages. Try something new, the possibilities are endless if you open yourself up to them.
5. Quit Swiping, Go Dating
If you are single because you are nowhere close to dating someone, maybe you just got out of a relationship and need time to decompress or maybe you are dealing with stuff that you need to go through by yourself then this one is not for you, refer to number two and four.
However, if you are in an emotionally healthy state and open to dating, then, there’s no more powerful way to rock your singledom this holiday than to take control of your dating life. You don’t have to sit and wait for your prince charming or magical princess to materialize out of thin air and burst your brain…hehe
Sign up on Datespace and go on real dates. A healthy perspective is key here, approach it as a social and light-hearted affair and not a do-or-die affair. The aim is to assess the other person as a prospective partner, there’s a whole world of difference between that and walking down the aisle with this person the very next day so don’t get all intense on your first date.
Are there other ways that you rock your singledom? Don’t hesitate to share in the comments.